UNCOMMON SIGNS THAT SHOWS YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY TRAUMATIZED.

 Emotional Trauma has never been a pleasant thing to occur to anyone at all. Most of the time, this is often triggered by ones past experiences, some sort of abuse which affects one mentally or in other cases loneliness. At times, we might be passing through this traumatic phase but try as much as possible to pretend it doesn't matter to us or bother us. Ignoring how much your mental state bothers you only makes it worse and eventually gets you to break down if care isn't taken. This is why you should try a means to get your mind of adjust to whatever is going on in the present and completely accept whatever went on in the past and move on. Some individuals have no idea they are emotionally traumatized until they eventually break down and can't handle the unpleasant feeling they feel anymore. 

Here are hidden signs you should check out for if you're trying to find out whether you're emotionally traumatized: 

1) YOU'RE OFTEN CONFUSED ABOUT THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE AND DOUBT IF IT'S WORTH LIVING: When you are emotionally traumatized, you tend not to think straight. You become overwhelmed by your thoughts on what purpose your life has and end up concluding yourself that it isn't worth living. You tend to feel disconnected from the world and consider yourself useless to other people because no one ever accepts and sees you as you. This is often caused by loneliness and self insecurities. For example, Billy feels he is useless, he has no friends, he feels his life is a mess and stays disconnected from everyone in general especially those who care about him and try to check up on him ones in a while. He convinces himself he is of no use to people anymore and tries to stay alone with his thoughts. This is totally wrong because Billy is harming himself mentally if care isn't taken. No matter how useless a human being think he is, he often has an influence on others one way or the other knowingly or unknowingly. He might feel no one is paying attention or cares about him but might not realize those who feel ignored by him or blocked away from him because of his lack of social life and restrictions when keeping friends. Those who care about him or wish to get closer to him might back away because they feel he doesn't need them in their lives and this eventually makes his trauma even worse. 

Any kind of person facing a situation like this should not be ignored or judged by whatever actions they take. You never know what they are passing through. If you have a friend who suddenly distances herself or himself from you or doesn't interact with people anymore like they use to, try as much as possible to check up on this person and find out what's going on. You're not aware of whose life you're trying to save right now. 

2) YOU'RE OFTEN HAUNTED BY THE THOUGHTS OF YOUR PAST MISTAKES:

Have you ever experienced doing something as you would often do on a normal day and then suddenly get a thought from whatever happened in the past that traumatized and then feel the same traumatized feeling gosh down your spine all over again. You might feel, angry upset or broken down and your mood instantly changes because you haven't gotten to let go of the past. You find it difficult to move on. This thoughts restrain you from doing what you love. You feel discouraged about your life and prefer not to have anything to do with that aspect that traumatized you. For example a young girl of 27 who got raped when still 7 years old might still be traumatized by this thoughts and break down each time she remembers this. It's often difficult to forget whatever had given you so much pain in the pain. It's almost impossible. Another example can be a guy who had a rough relationship experience in the past and concludes never to get into a relationship again. He finds a lady falls in love but tries so hard to fight the feeling off because of whatever happened in the past. Being stuck in your past can restrain you from doing a lot of things that could help you move on and view the brighter aspect of life. If you're unable to forget the past, perhaps you have been keeping whatever feelings that traumatize you in your heart without pouring it out. Visit a good therapist or counsellor around you or perhaps tell a friend you trust so much in order to ease the heavy burden. She might not be able to help you feel better but at least, you will feel so so much better yourself because of how much you have uplifted from yourself.

3) YOU CAUSE PAIN TO THOSE AROUND YOU KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWINGLY:

You tend to do things you don't wish to do when you are emotionally down. You might cause pain to other people around you with your words, actions or negative attitude because you are afraid of facing this situation alone or perhaps you think it's a normal thing to do. You tend to verge your anger or frustration on people so as to feel better but you won't eventually because seeing people around you in pain restrain from you or stay away from you due to fear only make it worse. You could end up being a bully or cutting relations with those very close to you for just no reason. You might end up neglecting your love life or pay no attention to your partner's need because you're afraid your partner might repeat what ever terrible relationship had happened to you in the past. The more you do this, the more people will stay away from you, call you selfish and think you have issues which you actually don't. You're just burdened by a whole of emotions which needs to be let out. You have to find a way to let go of whatever makes you feel angry and sad and just move on. Try out new hobbies you love, explore people's experiences online because you aren't alone in this battle. Find out how they got over theirs and try to learn from it. Your problem isn't bigger than anyone else's own because no one's problem is ever bigger. Everyone has their burden to carry and handle wisely. 

5) YOU GET EASILY DEPRESSED AND BOTTLE UP YOUR FEELINGS: 

Have you ever noticed that friend of yours on social media who do post different new outfit everyday or that celebrity who is always winning awards one event or the other? Do you think that actually defines their life generally? When someone gets emotionally traumatized, they might not want to show it for people to know. Some get pretty good at bottling up their feelings and smiling to the camera as if nothing is wrong. They become experts at hiding their pains and tend to wanna handle it themselves without getting anyone involved and this only makes it worse. You become forgetful and get insomnia. You might begin to have suicidal thoughts.  Your friends never suspect because they feel you are happy and okay (To be precise I think friends are the biggest reasons why so many people get emotionally bitter these days). Little do they know a picture cannot show the amount of pain you feel inside. Perhaps they might realize this eventually when they get a news on your attempted suicide or see your obituary online. 

The world has never been an easy place to live in but do not let this fool you because you are the only one that can make it easy for yourself. Do not let your difficulties and problems surpass you. Do not lose control of them. Ignore the one you can't handle and focus on the ones you can. Always remember you are not alone in your problems and people out there are facing the same thing. Try to help others facing issues or try and be close to them so as for you both to fight this battle of depression together. There is no greater joy than the joy of seeing someone smile because of you. Do not forget to visit a Therapist or Councellor if you are facing issues. And if you can't find one, ask a trusted friend for advise or share your problems with her and if you have none, you can share your problems to me in my mail anonymously at julieswod@gmail.com. I am sure to give a response.

Thanks for reading. I hope you enjoyed this post. Do not forget to share and also assimilate whatever was discussed because you aren't aware of whose life you are saving now.