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Avoid Letting People Get into Your Head.

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If there is anything people have to know, it is to stop comparing themselves with others or perhaps comparing others. Too bad some people just don't understand this because at a point in life you're still going to find that person who wonders why you do things a certain and compare you with his/her so called Mr Perfect who perhaps does it better. Two humans being aren't the same and we have learn how to appreciate that. Some people might not understand or assimilate things faster than others but that doesn't mean they are not better in other areas.  Let's just imagine John as one who isn't good at Maths and Economics but is very good at biology class and debates. One of his mates ends up making fun of him for being a weakling in calculations. This mate must have perhaps done this because he felt he was better but the truth is how well can he compete with John in a debate competition or what grades does he acquire in a Biology Practical Class? People will always,...

ISSUES TRYING TO BE MYSELF

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 When one advises you to be yourself , it might be easy for you or most people but to me it’s kinda difficult. Most thought that run through my mind when I try to is “What if they don’t like who I am?” “What if they hate the real me?” “What if I say this and everyone criticizes me or everyone ignores me like I am a piece of garbage?”  Well if there is one thing I have learnt from this life, it’s that no body has the time to start studying you or filtering all your words. Everyone has their own life to live and problems to think about. It’s normal to be self conscious. I am  sooo self conscious. I tend to filter off a lot about me which ends up me showing just 3% of myself to people and the remaining 97% to my family and myself when I am alone. This can be really disturbing and it could give you this thought that no one likes you or you’re just not deserved by anyone.  The truth of this matter is, people like you no matter who you are and if they care they will try to...

What you should know about trust

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 It is no news how difficult it is to give someone a second chance after they’ve hurt us so bad to the extent hearing just a word from their lips seems threatening to us. We have grown to hate them and lose interest in them. We have lost that trust that we felt for them in the past because we’re scared they will hurt us again.  It’s normal to lose faith in someone and move on with our lives forgetting we ever met them. There is one thing I have learnt about trust and if I am to share now, it is basically that trust is as fragile as a ceramic and if not handle will care can get shattered and never reformed to its initial state. It’s one to thing to hurt one and it’s another to lose trust in someone. Sometimes when someone hurt us we lose trust in them because the thought of “Why did you even do this?!” keeps troubling our mind.  No one wants to be hurt twice. No normal human being would want to. This is why when a relationship breaks due to lack of trust, when such couples...

CYBER SECURITY IN NIGERIA?

CYBER SECURITY IN NIGERIA IS IT RAMPERT IN OUR ECONOMY IN THIS MODERN TIME? It’s no news on the alarming increase of cybercrime rate in the web this few years. In the past, various measures have been taken to reduce the rate at which scammer, fraudsters and hackers exploit the web page and thankfully, as technology develop day by day and it has gotten more helpful. Advanced techniques have been taken in securing the global web. This doesn’t entirely depend on the developers alone but on website users too. It’s really delightful to realize people in this modern world have knowledge on how to protect their devices and themselves from the internet breaches without having to depend on other people to do it for them. However, what’s cyber security in Nigeria and what are the steps taken in controlling it? It’s no news on the increase in cybercrimes in Nigeria and it seems to be growing drastically every day starting from viruses to experienced hackers and fraudsters. Nigeria howeve...

I WON'T LET IT END THAT WAY....1

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Here I am again! Ready to help ye all in every way I can. Here is a story from Linda. She talks about her experience as a child and how she was almost considered weak due to the way she developed. * Well, as a child I use to be private. Right now I am private. I am still a private, concious person but when it comes to helping people, I share few things to help others out. According to what I have learnt, it's best to let others learn about your experience because you might not know who is facing a worse situation than you. Some people out there needs motivation and support from people like them or people who has faced situations close to what they have. That's why I am posting this few things. To begin with, when growing up I used to be really gentle. I didn't talk much. I was so obedient. I didn't disobey anyone or bully anyone. I was trained well by my parents. I was like a good child to them but I wasn't all that smart for my age maybe that was how I devel...

REASONS WHY YOU'RE LONELY

Hello guys! Hope you were able to check out my previous post on what loneliness mean and how to get out of it. Now we are going to discuss on reasons why we are lonely at times. There are several reasons one tends to fall into this terrible mental state. 1) I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE: This is a type of loneliness we choose ourselves. Sometimes we might just be getting over a breakup or we might just be sulking over something and at times it could be to think. This is certainly common. 2) I HAVE NO FRIENDS Loneliness comes in when there are no friends. If you have no friend to support you or tell you hi or at least share your dreams with you then, you could actually be lonely. This can be the worst feeling especially when it comes to bringing down self esteem. Some people just don't like socializing with others or even talking to them and this could be a reason for this. A solution to this is to try to socialize with people. Talk to one who sits beside you in class or one who tend...

LONELY ME! MY FAULT?

Do you know the worst feelings one could ever have in ones lifetime? My dear, it's being lonely. If you've got no one to talk to other than to sit on your bed all day and stare at your screen or TV, you're definitely lonely. Loneliness can really have effect on the health in terms of thinking, mental stress and positivity. When we're lonely we feel the world has just not decided to pay attention to us. It's more like, we are all alone by ourselves and we have no one. The truth is, every human being is entitled to his or her own decisions and well being. Being lonely is a normal thing at times, but it's best to avoid being lonely and try to socialize with people. Socializing with people gives birth to new ideas and new view of things. 50 percent of lonely people who stepped out of their comfort zone to socialize tended to feel good about it and got reluctant to fall back to their old habit. Being social active makes you live longer and look younger due to the fee...