REASONS WHY YOU'RE LONELY
Hello guys! Hope you were able to check out my previous post on what loneliness mean and how to get out of it. Now we are going to discuss on reasons why we are lonely at times. There are several reasons one tends to fall into this terrible mental state.
1) I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE:
This is a type of loneliness we choose ourselves. Sometimes we might just be getting over a breakup or we might just be sulking over something and at times it could be to think. This is certainly common.
2) I HAVE NO FRIENDS
Loneliness comes in when there are no friends. If you have no friend to support you or tell you hi or at least share your dreams with you then, you could actually be lonely. This can be the worst feeling especially when it comes to bringing down self esteem. Some people just don't like socializing with others or even talking to them and this could be a reason for this. A solution to this is to try to socialize with people. Talk to one who sits beside you in class or one who tends to pay more attention to you. It could get you out of that shell.
3) THEY ALL THINK I AM LAME; NO ONE WANTS TO EVEN LOOK AT ME
This happens to some people especially people who are quiet or who are commonly seen as unusual. There are at times when we're seen as unserious or unreliable...this could really be a terrible thing. No one has the right to judge your capabilities or see your decisions as useless. You're also entitled to your decisions too. People like this are not even meant to be your friends in the first place or worth your time. They tend not to see any worth in anything you do and consider themselves better. A solution to this is for you to continue being yourself and try particpating in activities you love. Show your true self to everyone. No need to pretend or shut yourself out. Those who care will surely tend to spend more time with you. Of course! It's possible to see someone of your interest or type.
4) YOU ARE PROUD
Yeah! To be frank, the loneliest people on Earth are those who are proud. If you're proud to talk to people or mingle with just anyone or even share idea when you're asked to, you will surely get lonely. No one wishes to hangout with someone who looks down on them or someone who sees only her ideas as the best in the world and no one else. If you want to feel happier, younger and more positive, you will have to stop being proud.
5) I DON'T KNOW HOW TO INTERACT:
If you know you always feel awkward while interacting with people or you don't know how to converse with people, you might draw away and begin to feel lonely. As I said, never underestimate yourself for any reason. Never ever! If you find it difficult to interact with people , you could take tutorial courses on how to. Mehn! It's a free world. Don't be ashamed. Work on yourself.
6) YOU HAVE A SPECIAL FEATURE OR YOU FEEL UNIQUE
Well Yeah! When you have something unique about you like for instance you have a very long hair or you have a very beautiful shape(almost perfect) or you have a really big nose or you have a tiny voice or as a lady you have a beard or some other features like that, you might feel ashamed or bullied and draw away from others. This isn't a right idea because the more you draw away the more you give people the chance to insult you or underestimate you. Some people love seeing others unhappy. It is your chance to make yourself happy and the good news is you're the only who can make yourself happy. Get out into the world and try doing things to make those features worth it. I did heard to the lady with beard that ended up being a popular super model. Unique features can actually be eye catching and attractive to some people. Don't hide them.
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That's all on the list. If you need more reason why one is being lonely or if there is one that isn't mentioned, write it down on the comment below. Thanks so much for reading. Love y'all
1) I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE:
This is a type of loneliness we choose ourselves. Sometimes we might just be getting over a breakup or we might just be sulking over something and at times it could be to think. This is certainly common.
2) I HAVE NO FRIENDS
Loneliness comes in when there are no friends. If you have no friend to support you or tell you hi or at least share your dreams with you then, you could actually be lonely. This can be the worst feeling especially when it comes to bringing down self esteem. Some people just don't like socializing with others or even talking to them and this could be a reason for this. A solution to this is to try to socialize with people. Talk to one who sits beside you in class or one who tends to pay more attention to you. It could get you out of that shell.
3) THEY ALL THINK I AM LAME; NO ONE WANTS TO EVEN LOOK AT ME
This happens to some people especially people who are quiet or who are commonly seen as unusual. There are at times when we're seen as unserious or unreliable...this could really be a terrible thing. No one has the right to judge your capabilities or see your decisions as useless. You're also entitled to your decisions too. People like this are not even meant to be your friends in the first place or worth your time. They tend not to see any worth in anything you do and consider themselves better. A solution to this is for you to continue being yourself and try particpating in activities you love. Show your true self to everyone. No need to pretend or shut yourself out. Those who care will surely tend to spend more time with you. Of course! It's possible to see someone of your interest or type.
4) YOU ARE PROUD
Yeah! To be frank, the loneliest people on Earth are those who are proud. If you're proud to talk to people or mingle with just anyone or even share idea when you're asked to, you will surely get lonely. No one wishes to hangout with someone who looks down on them or someone who sees only her ideas as the best in the world and no one else. If you want to feel happier, younger and more positive, you will have to stop being proud.
5) I DON'T KNOW HOW TO INTERACT:
If you know you always feel awkward while interacting with people or you don't know how to converse with people, you might draw away and begin to feel lonely. As I said, never underestimate yourself for any reason. Never ever! If you find it difficult to interact with people , you could take tutorial courses on how to. Mehn! It's a free world. Don't be ashamed. Work on yourself.
6) YOU HAVE A SPECIAL FEATURE OR YOU FEEL UNIQUE
Well Yeah! When you have something unique about you like for instance you have a very long hair or you have a very beautiful shape(almost perfect) or you have a really big nose or you have a tiny voice or as a lady you have a beard or some other features like that, you might feel ashamed or bullied and draw away from others. This isn't a right idea because the more you draw away the more you give people the chance to insult you or underestimate you. Some people love seeing others unhappy. It is your chance to make yourself happy and the good news is you're the only who can make yourself happy. Get out into the world and try doing things to make those features worth it. I did heard to the lady with beard that ended up being a popular super model. Unique features can actually be eye catching and attractive to some people. Don't hide them.
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That's all on the list. If you need more reason why one is being lonely or if there is one that isn't mentioned, write it down on the comment below. Thanks so much for reading. Love y'all
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