AdviseJuliet

  This writeup isn't a diary, don't take this the wrong way but i am really facing shit as i type this short article right now. Is this even suppose to be an article. Let us just leave this as a short write up i am writing to make myself feel better and also encourage my folks out there who are feeling as discouraged as I am. It seems ironic on how someone who needs encouragement wants to encourage those who are discouraged on the same reason she is discouraged herself (You get it right?). It's strange but not impossible. I just feel we should encourage ourselves at this point. Do you know that feeling when you are yearning to get a result from your hard work but find nothing? That's the kind of feeling i am having right now. It's almost like you're staring at a chicken egg waiting for the egg to hatch. The issue with me is that i am not patient enough. I am kind of patient at some aspects but when it comes to seeing results from my hard work, well i easily get ...

Hello all. It is really of great delight to have you all in my blog. In the past, I treated topics that dealt with emotions, depression, frustration but then it never occurred in my mind to bring up the topic on suicide.  According to Research, one person dies of suicide every 40 seconds. The most reason for suicide however is caused by emotional imbalance or poor mental state. Human beings are not hundred percent normal by nature. It is very easy to be lured into such an act even when you fight against it. The thoughts of all hopes being gone, the thoughts of guilt, the thoughts of environmental or physical factors can lure you to take this step.  Most people who commit suicide (according to my opinion) often have the thought of ending whatever pain they inflict in someone. It could be in themselves or some other people close to them. According to their mental state at that moment, suicide is the solution to what is going on with them mentally. Let's be realistic here, it is ...

 Have you ever felt a kind of deep connection with someone who turns out to impress and amuse you more than your other partners? Have you ever felt amused by someone's character that you just wish to know more about them even if you haven't known them for so long? Have you ever felt you have known someone for a long time even though you haven't? Deep connections comes with compatibility, understanding and common goals between you and your partner. I mean we must have met other partners we  fell in love with but never felt any strong bond or connection with them. It's very possible. We always find some fault in them. It's almost like we never even understood them. We keep getting distracted by their bad side that we never realized their good. But when we meet someone who understands us or does things similar to us, we tend to be amused and curious by this. This conditions our heart and feeling to know more about this person and a deep connection sets in.  When you ha...

 In one of my previous posts, I wrote an article on hidden signs which you may not be aware of that shows you are really emotionally drained. The signs were supposed to be focused on the common ways we feel everyday or in every occasion which we think is normal but it isn't. The post did very well to my delight. Knowing the reasons why you are emotionally drained in the first place is very important because to be frank some of the reasons aren't something we have control over. Some could be due to a childhood trauma, another could be due to the type of people we hang out with.  Here are common surprising reasons why you could be emotionally traumatized. 1) YOU HAD A REALLY TRAUMATIZING CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE: Any experience that alters the normal childhood experiences especially if negative could be traumatizing. We have no control over how we were raised or who raised us. We have no control over our experiences. We get to realize the mistakes we have made or realize what we cou...

 We all had dreams one time as children. I mean we still do but it's more common for young tiny feet to dream of being almost anything even if it might turn out to be impossible (Like me dreaming one time I was 6 years old of being a princess in England when I grow up. Well this idea came up after watching Cinderella and I assure you that if the prince comes right now to ask for my hand, I will definitely turn him down. I am not in anyway interested in any royal life as an adult). Children have amazing imaginations and are really creative in their thinking. This surely is what makes them fast thinkers and also serious dream chasers. I mean, they do everything they can to achieve their dreams at a young age even if it involved making a fake crown and pretending to be the princess of the household. (Do not look at me like that). As we grow up, we become more mature. We learn more about life and realize that there are some certain expectations we expected as young kids we can never ac...

 Emotional Trauma has never been a pleasant thing to occur to anyone at all. Most of the time, this is often triggered by ones past experiences, some sort of abuse which affects one mentally or in other cases loneliness. At times, we might be passing through this traumatic phase but try as much as possible to pretend it doesn't matter to us or bother us. Ignoring how much your mental state bothers you only makes it worse and eventually gets you to break down if care isn't taken. This is why you should try a means to get your mind of adjust to whatever is going on in the present and completely accept whatever went on in the past and move on. Some individuals have no idea they are emotionally traumatized until they eventually break down and can't handle the unpleasant feeling they feel anymore.  Here are hidden signs you should check out for if you're trying to find out whether you're emotionally traumatized:  1) YOU'RE OFTEN CONFUSED ABOUT THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIF...

 Infatuation is something that's really common these days. I mean people tend to fall in love more often with what they see first before considering what is in the inside. Love at first sight is way too common these days and to be precise,I don't believe in such crap. Sorry. Love should be a kind of seed planted deep in your heart and then nurtured by the personality you love in your partner or what she does to make you feel less of a garbage and more like yourself. Seeing the person every single time doesn't make you bored because deep inside your heart you know this lady or guy is worth it. The seed of love in your heart grows every single day each time you get to know the person more and more and learn how to accept both the person's good side and bad side.  Here are ways to find out the heart is involved in what you feel: 1)  YOU BOTH NATURALLY UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER: It might seem unique but no voodoo magic can ever explain how much two lovers can understand each ot...

As human beings, we want a perfect life. We want everything to happen the way we want it, we don't tend to understand why things just can't go smoothly.  Life would be very very easy for us if things went really smoothly, in fact it would be so boring not to experience how difficult it can be challenging and we don't tend to have any experience to teach us or help us get emotionally stronger than we already are.  If a human being is given the opportunity to change whatever situation he is facing right now, there is a 99% chance if not 100 that the person would really love things to be easier than it already is.  Unfortunately such can't happen because everyone faces challenges every single time. Challenges they might not have planned for. This is the reason why we cannot judge anyone for what they are going through or what they tend to do because we aren't sure of what they are passing through every single moment of their lives.  We tend to judge people way too easi...

If there is anything people have to know, it is to stop comparing themselves with others or perhaps comparing others. Too bad some people just don't understand this because at a point in life you're still going to find that person who wonders why you do things a certain and compare you with his/her so called Mr Perfect who perhaps does it better. Two humans being aren't the same and we have learn how to appreciate that. Some people might not understand or assimilate things faster than others but that doesn't mean they are not better in other areas.  Let's just imagine John as one who isn't good at Maths and Economics but is very good at biology class and debates. One of his mates ends up making fun of him for being a weakling in calculations. This mate must have perhaps done this because he felt he was better but the truth is how well can he compete with John in a debate competition or what grades does he acquire in a Biology Practical Class? People will always,...

 When one advises you to be yourself , it might be easy for you or most people but to me it’s kinda difficult. Most thought that run through my mind when I try to is “What if they don’t like who I am?” “What if they hate the real me?” “What if I say this and everyone criticizes me or everyone ignores me like I am a piece of garbage?”  Well if there is one thing I have learnt from this life, it’s that no body has the time to start studying you or filtering all your words. Everyone has their own life to live and problems to think about. It’s normal to be self conscious. I am  sooo self conscious. I tend to filter off a lot about me which ends up me showing just 3% of myself to people and the remaining 97% to my family and myself when I am alone. This can be really disturbing and it could give you this thought that no one likes you or you’re just not deserved by anyone.  The truth of this matter is, people like you no matter who you are and if they care they will try to...

 It is no news how difficult it is to give someone a second chance after they’ve hurt us so bad to the extent hearing just a word from their lips seems threatening to us. We have grown to hate them and lose interest in them. We have lost that trust that we felt for them in the past because we’re scared they will hurt us again.  It’s normal to lose faith in someone and move on with our lives forgetting we ever met them. There is one thing I have learnt about trust and if I am to share now, it is basically that trust is as fragile as a ceramic and if not handle will care can get shattered and never reformed to its initial state. It’s one to thing to hurt one and it’s another to lose trust in someone. Sometimes when someone hurt us we lose trust in them because the thought of “Why did you even do this?!” keeps troubling our mind.  No one wants to be hurt twice. No normal human being would want to. This is why when a relationship breaks due to lack of trust, when such couples...

CYBER SECURITY IN NIGERIA IS IT RAMPERT IN OUR ECONOMY IN THIS MODERN TIME? It’s no news on the alarming increase of cybercrime rate in the web this few years. In the past, various measures have been taken to reduce the rate at which scammer, fraudsters and hackers exploit the web page and thankfully, as technology develop day by day and it has gotten more helpful. Advanced techniques have been taken in securing the global web. This doesn’t entirely depend on the developers alone but on website users too. It’s really delightful to realize people in this modern world have knowledge on how to protect their devices and themselves from the internet breaches without having to depend on other people to do it for them. However, what’s cyber security in Nigeria and what are the steps taken in controlling it? It’s no news on the increase in cybercrimes in Nigeria and it seems to be growing drastically every day starting from viruses to experienced hackers and fraudsters. Nigeria howeve...

Here I am again! Ready to help ye all in every way I can. Here is a story from Linda. She talks about her experience as a child and how she was almost considered weak due to the way she developed. * Well, as a child I use to be private. Right now I am private. I am still a private, concious person but when it comes to helping people, I share few things to help others out. According to what I have learnt, it's best to let others learn about your experience because you might not know who is facing a worse situation than you. Some people out there needs motivation and support from people like them or people who has faced situations close to what they have. That's why I am posting this few things. To begin with, when growing up I used to be really gentle. I didn't talk much. I was so obedient. I didn't disobey anyone or bully anyone. I was trained well by my parents. I was like a good child to them but I wasn't all that smart for my age maybe that was how I devel...

Hello guys! Hope you were able to check out my previous post on what loneliness mean and how to get out of it. Now we are going to discuss on reasons why we are lonely at times. There are several reasons one tends to fall into this terrible mental state. 1) I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE: This is a type of loneliness we choose ourselves. Sometimes we might just be getting over a breakup or we might just be sulking over something and at times it could be to think. This is certainly common. 2) I HAVE NO FRIENDS Loneliness comes in when there are no friends. If you have no friend to support you or tell you hi or at least share your dreams with you then, you could actually be lonely. This can be the worst feeling especially when it comes to bringing down self esteem. Some people just don't like socializing with others or even talking to them and this could be a reason for this. A solution to this is to try to socialize with people. Talk to one who sits beside you in class or one who tend...

Do you know the worst feelings one could ever have in ones lifetime? My dear, it's being lonely. If you've got no one to talk to other than to sit on your bed all day and stare at your screen or TV, you're definitely lonely. Loneliness can really have effect on the health in terms of thinking, mental stress and positivity. When we're lonely we feel the world has just not decided to pay attention to us. It's more like, we are all alone by ourselves and we have no one. The truth is, every human being is entitled to his or her own decisions and well being. Being lonely is a normal thing at times, but it's best to avoid being lonely and try to socialize with people. Socializing with people gives birth to new ideas and new view of things. 50 percent of lonely people who stepped out of their comfort zone to socialize tended to feel good about it and got reluctant to fall back to their old habit. Being social active makes you live longer and look younger due to the fee...

Hello Everyone. We do know at times, we might tend to think about ourselves before even considering others. Most people even accept the quote that says "Think of yourself first and after you've made it, think of others". It's not wrong to think about yourself but all this is right to a certain extent. Some people see selfishness as a character which they have no intention of changing while some people tend to feel selfish when they've thought the situation over and realized they have no other choice. Selfishness might be good to some extent but it isn't a natural phenomenon. Being selfish is something we cultivate in us. It's something we can change if we want to. It could be used in good ways in order to help others indirectly or plan ahead. Unfortunately, some people tend to use it only for their own interest without putting anyone in mind. For example, you might have your budget for the month which you plan to use for your family.  Your friend in need o...

When you like someone actually, you tend to feel nice about the person personality, talent or something that just feel unique about the person. Though there will be no string attached to make it look romantic. You get closer to the person because of various reasons. Either to learn a thing or two from the person, or to just feel that good feeling the person gives anytime the person is around you or to just have a friend. When you like someone, you have trust in the person but not total trust though. You could help the person with anything and even share some of your secrets with the person, dating advise for example. But when you love someone, things occur way deeper than that. You aren't with the person because you love a particular thing about the person or the person reminds you of someone, you're with the person because you feel a string attached to that person. You feel a sense of compatibility and you feel being around that person makes you feel complete or makes you feel...

Time can be really trickish. At a point you'll feel you're in a situation then before you wink you're in another. Sometimes some people just don't know the essence of others saying how relevance time can really be. Some don't realize how much time goes by. The way you plan your time determines how much dreams you'll get fufilled and how much progress you will make. Well...you will wondering why I am bringing this up now. Actually I was scrolling through my previous blogs. The one I had opened four to five years ago. Reading its content and how much I wrote about my future goals, plans, my dreams, it was so touching because to be frank looking at myself now, I haven't made half of those achievement. I wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry. I was just 14 and I said it there on my blog. "Heyyo! I am just 14 so don't mind my short description. I just know one day I will be a successful writer, animator..." And all those stuffs like that. Now I a...

"O! God! I am done with high school, I am done with college...what next? I don't know what I can do or if to learn a skill or search for a job..." This is actually the cry of devastation some people get when they finish their courses in college and still end up discovering they haven't figured out their path yet. The best time however to figure out your path is high school (to me though, don't know about you). High school is the time teenagers mingle around among themselves and try to learn new stuffs. Their curiousity for learning is high at this stage and they tend to try and know everything that interest them. So if you're still in high school it's not too late to discover yourself. Ask your mum what you loved doing as a kid, ask your teacher the course you're really good at, join social clubs and see the one that actually interest you, browse the internet for skills you could actually learn online. This can help discover how you can plan your life ...

Friends are really important in our lives especially in terms of killing boredom, helping us out of some tight situations and also giving us a shoulder to cry on when we're sad. True friends stay in touch with you for a very long time. Sometimes they tend to stay as part of your life all through your journey in this world even though you might both be in different locations. True friends can be relied on for anything especially in terms of advise or help but unfortunately, there are lots of fake friends everywhere. No one wants to help the other anymore because we feel we're hustling. If i am trying to get to a point here, it's that you can't always rely on friends for sensitive things because no one knows who to trust anymore or who is really ready to help us. It's high time we learn to be independent and tackle some situations without friends. I am not saying you shouldn't rely on friends, you're so free to do that but be careful with the type of friends y...